Some lives look whole from the outside. This is the story of what it takes to actually feel that way.

A debut memoir. Presale begins August 21. In bookstores December 15.

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A memoir about the truth it takes to come home to yourself.

A debut memoir

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Presale begins August 21

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In bookstores December 15

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Becoming isn’t linear

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You’re not behind

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You're not broken

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You're becoming

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A debut memoir ✳︎ Presale begins August 21 ✳︎ In bookstores December 15 ✳︎ Becoming isn’t linear ✳︎ You’re not behind ✳︎ You're not broken ✳︎ You're becoming ✳︎

This isn’t a story about falling apart.

It’s about what happens when the life you built no longer fits…
and you finally tell yourself the truth.

Becoming isn’t clean. It isn’t linear.
It rarely looks the way you imagined.

But on the other side of the unraveling,
there is something steadier waiting.

You.

Becoming Is Messy is a deeply personal memoir about the moment you realize the life you built doesn’t fully feel like your own… and the quiet journey of finding your way back.

For women who have spent years becoming who they thought they needed to be, it offers an honest invitation to stop waiting until you’re “fixed” and start living, trusting, and loving yourself before you feel ready.

Because the mess was never proof you were broken.
It was proof you were becoming.

“The mess was never evidence that I was broken. It was evidence that I was becoming.”

I didn’t set out to write a book.
I set out to understand my life.

Becoming Is Messy began as a way to make sense of the patterns, the choices, and the quiet truths I had spent years avoiding. What it became was something much bigger, an invitation to live more honestly, more fully, and more like yourself.

Today, that work has grown into The Unperfect Life Co., a collective devoted to helping people come home to themselves through self-trust, wholeness, and real, lived transformation.

If you’ve ever felt like your life looked right on paper but didn’t quite feel like yours, you’re not alone. And you’re not behind.

You might just be in the middle of becoming.

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  • “I really loved the book and know many women will learn from it. Your voice shines and the emotional resonance is undeniable. This is a story that will stay with readers."

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  • “I really enjoyed the way you started out with your background and then as the story continued it felt heightened and stressful with some major climactic moments and then it closed with a sense of empowerment and ease. I think your story will help women that are going through a challenging time feel like they have options and do not need to settle or be stuck if they are not happy or not being treated the way they deserve.”

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  • “I am crying because of the way you speak... the way your words resonate inside of me... I lived a different life but had much of the same pain.”

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  • “It was the one book I read this year within a week! It definitely drives you in!”

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  • “I just finished reading “Becoming is Messy” this morning. It’s a really good book! It was raw but so clearly honest and real. There were a few places where your turn of phrase, or your metaphors were so insightful and illuminating that I had to pause.”

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