About Me
Where my becoming began.
I didn’t set out to write a book.
I set out to understand my life.
For a long time, I lived a life that made sense on paper. I learned how to become who I thought I needed to be, how to perform for love, and how to make it all look like it was working.
But underneath it, something never quite settled.
The work that became Becoming Is Messy began as a way to make sense of that feeling. What it became was something much bigger, an invitation to live more honestly, more fully, and more like yourself.
Born premature to an incredible teenage mom, a severe infection spread through my body within days of my birth, settling into my joints and leaving lasting damage I would carry for a lifetime.
Pain wasn’t something I learned later. It was something I knew from the beginning.
And for a long time, so was the feeling that I had to earn love, prove my worth, and become someone in order to be chosen.
For years, I lived as a passenger in my own life.
Always striving, always performing, always trying to become enough.
It wasn’t until my late 20s that something began to shift.
Not all at once, and not in a straight line, but in small, honest moments where I started to question the life I had built and the patterns I was repeating.
Through healing, loss, love, and a willingness to see myself more clearly, I began to step into my own life in a different way.
Not perfect. Not finished.
But real.
Today, my life looks very different than it once did.
Not because everything is perfect, but because I’ve learned how to live it as myself.
I’m the founder of The Unperfect Life Co., a collective devoted to helping people come home to themselves through self-trust, wholeness, and real, lived transformation.
I’m also a speaker, author, and host of the Becoming Is Messy podcast, where I share this work through stories, conversations, and lived experience.
Before this chapter, I spent more than 20 years in the credit union industry, leading national programs, developing leaders, and helping people grow into who they were capable of becoming. That work shaped me, and it continues to inform everything I do today.
I’m someone who loves creating meaningful experiences. I care deeply about people and find joy in creating moments that bring connection, laughter, and a sense of being truly seen.
I often joke that my love language is experiences…even though it didn’t make the original list. The book got close, with Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch as my top two, but I’ll take a shared moment over just about anything.
